You may have noticed that I’ve been a little quiet on the blog front lately. And maybe you are wondering why? Well the first reason is because we spent one week in Croatia with family. It was a really different kind of holiday for us. Rather than ticking all the sights off our list we ended up taking it easy, hanging out with family, exploring the local village, and eating and eating and eating. But I’ll share more about that another time!
The second reason is because I hit a wall. A metaphorical wall that is! After six months of creating content for my blog and social media – thinking about it 24/7, over-analysing my followers and traffic every time I picked up my phone and constantly comparing myself to other bloggers I finally crashed. And I’m definitely not saying I don’t love what I’m doing, I do. If I didn’t there is no way I would be able to find the motivation to keep going. However, I had definitely reached a point where I needed to take a break and reassess.
Everything was starting to feel over-planned and over-thought, to a point where I was editing out my true self. I was more worried about being grammatically correct than speaking from the heart. And it was really killing my joy. As a very visual person I find creating images lots of fun but I was starting to dread the writing. I looked at it as the boring part of what I did. And that is exactly what it became.
So when I sat down to start a new post last Monday I just couldn’t get my fingers to start typing. My mind was blank and my enthusiasm was zero. There was nothing I could do but take a step back. Take a break. Reset and refresh. Which is another thing I struggle to justify. I just feel guilty because I’m not working.
Luckily for me I have an incredible husband who often helps me see the light. He encouraged me to take a break. Have a mental health day or two or three. As he pointed out I never stop working. When we travel I’m thinking about how I could turn what we are doing into a post, taking photos, creating my Instagram story and posting to Instagram daily. When we go out and on weekends I’m always on the lookout for the perfect photo spots or planning my outfits. During the week I’m writing posts, editing photos, creating videos and keeping up with social media. And please don’t think that I am complaining about this. The reason I never stop is because I LOVE it.
But I knew I needed to change something. And all it took was a little headspace. A little break gave me the space I needed to see that the answer was simple. If it was the writing I was feeling negative about then I needed to reframe it in my mind. And so my solution was to put together a mission statement and tagline for Jayde Archives. Words that reflected the purpose and motivation behind everything I create.
Sounds too simple right? But having it down on paper gave me the clarity, focus and fresh inspiration I needed. Now I’ve blabbed on for so long I guess I better share what I ended up with!
Using dreamy images together with travel, fashion, life and business themes as a platform Jayde Archives aims to inspire others to seek joy in the everyday.
Seeking Everyday Magic
Guidelines for writing:
- Write from the heart
- Let the words flow, don’t overthink it, don’t stress about structure
- Don’t edit out my personality
So you’ll be proud to know that so far I’ve only reread what I’ve written about five times (yes – this is an improvement) – and I’m not sticking to any kind of word count or structure! Woo! Go me! (I almost backspaced that).
As well as explain my lack of posts lately I also wanted to use this time to share some of my favourite simple ways to get some headspace everyday. Of course I am still working on it, but I am pretty proud of how far I’ve come in the last few years in regards to stress and anxiety. And it’s thanks to the following five little practices that I’ve made so much improvement.
5 Simple Ways to get more Headspace and find your Happy Place
1. Yoga (or any exercise really…)
I’ve never been a big fan of sports so it took me a little while to realise that exercise didn’t necessarily mean I had to play a sport. And then a few years ago I discovered yoga. The perfect way to get some exercise and headspace at the same time. There are a range of of classes from slow and mindful to fast and energetic. I think the key is to find an activity that you really enjoy and look forward to doing. It will give your mind space to forget about the rest of the world, your to-do list and any troubles on your mind and just focus on yourself. It’s amazing the perspective you can gain from switching your mind off for an hour.
It can take some time to try a few different things and then find an instructor or class that works best for you. But it’s well worth your investment of time. If you know yoga isn’t for you then how about trying pilates, kung-fu, tai chi, dancing, barre, pole workouts, bootcamp, hiking, rowing, zumba, the gym, running or swimming? For some things you can find some great free content on YouTube and do some of your classes at home or even when traveling. My favourite YouTube channels to follow for yoga are Boho Beautiful and Yoga with Adriene.
2. Meditation (it’s not just for hippies!)
Unfortunately for some people meditation seems to have a certain stigma about it. That it is ‘airy fairy’ or for hippies. But there are so many different ways you can meditate. Whether you go to a meditation class, practice on your own, or use an app or recording to guide you there are lots of options and styles to choose from. One app I love to use, and which is a great introduction to meditation and mindfulness for anyone is Headspace. The perfect time to fit in some meditation is at the beginning and end of your day and it only needs to be for 10-15 minutes. Meditation has helped me become more mindful and less stressed in situations that used to overwhelm me.
3. Listening to my favourite happy songs
This one is a bit of fun, but a good little trick that always helps me shake a bad mood. Especially when paired with some dancing around the house or walking through the park. You can make your own playlist or there are some great mood boosting playlists on Spotify. Some of my favourites are Get Home Happy!, Happy Hits, Songs to Sing in the Shower, and Morning Motivation.
4. Journaling my positive thoughts
Journaling is a new one for me. Something I’ve never really tried. But this year I thought I’d give it a go and I’m really loving it. I think the key here is to focus on positive things. For me that means writing about the things I am grateful for, the people who made a positive impact on my day, the best moment of my day and what I’m looking forward to the next day. I find it’s a really great way to set the tone for the day ahead and then to reflect on it in the evening. You can simply buy a blank notebook and decide what you want to focus on in your writing, or if you prefer more guidance there are journals you can buy with prompts and ideas already set up. Just google ‘happiness journal’ or ‘gratitude journal’ and you’ll find an abundance of options.
5. Having dedicated technology-free time
I’m not going to lie, this one is a struggle but when you can get into a good routine it’s well worth it. Earlier this year Jason and I decided that from dinner onwards we would put our phones away and not check them again until the next morning. This also meant leaving them outside the bedroom for the night. Otherwise it just became too tempting to check them. I find that having this break from technology really helps me wind down and stop thinking about work before bed. It allows me to give my full attention to spending quality time with Jase. And if you’re thinking you need to have your phone by the bed to wake you up, there’s this thing called an alarm clock. Try it!
Oh and since we are talking about headspace I thought I’d include some of my favourite things to decorate my head too. Hehe!
My Favourite tie up Headbands
It really doesn’t take very much effort to include a little headspace in your day. Start small and pick something that feels right for you. You’ll be feeling calmer and more care free before you know it. What are your favourite ways to get a little headspace and find your happy place, I’d love to hear any other little tips you’ve got!